Can black people not have a disagreement anymore without the label of “angry” and “difficult”?
It took a moment for me to watch the infamous video between comedians Steve Harvey and Mo’Nique. From what I have heard, Mo’Nique threatened to slap Steve Harvey and Steve Harvey has put it out there that he regretted the way he handled her.
“Oh boy” I thought. “What have these two done now?”
Steve Harvey accused Mo’Nique of having “rich people problems” and Mo’Nique is adamant she has been black balled by the industry due to having a disagreement with Oprah, Tyler Perry, and Lee Daniels.
Whatever the disagreement was, I’m sure telling them to “suck my d*ck” wasn’t the olive branch they hoped for but if that’s how she felt, that’s how she felt.
I watched Mo’Nique and Steve spar on stage with their quick wit and insistence that they love one another like brother and sister. When she said she wanted to slap Steve, I really felt that.
Who hasn’t threatened to slap their siblings at least once? Or twice.
It was a joke. From a comedian. To another comedian.
I didn’t see an angry black woman on stage. What I did see was Steve Harvey tell Mo’Nique to choose money over integrity. The “this is the world we live in” speech he delivered on stage is exactly why women are fearful to talk about their experiences. The intersectionality between being black and female is hard enough. Mo’Nique has been brave to talk about what has happened to her behind closed doors. We can acknowledge the validity of what she says even if we don’t agree with how she said it. Steve mansplaining, talking over and down to her on a national syndicated T.V show says more about Steve than it does about Mo’Nique. The old Mo would have told him to “s*ck my dick.” The new Mo exhibited eloquent rage and I was here for her growth. This queen knows her worth.
When Monique said “We must learn to agree to disagree without getting upset”, I really felt that too. There are so many adults that don’t know how to accept feedback and disagree with people without being in their feelings. Don’t believe me? Check the comment section everywhere. This isn’t a “Mo’Nique problem” or a phenomenon specific to “angry black women”. There are many hurt adults walking around who do not know how to properly communicate.
This segment was painful to watch. I saw a black man tell a black woman to lose herself to secure a bag. Kudos to Mo’Nique for living in her truth and choosing another way.
This wasn’t an argument. It was great t.v for ratings to promote Steve’s show since there have been whispers of cancellation.
I can’t trust anyone who will compromise their integrity for a coin. How soon we forget when Steve Harvey met with Donald Trump to discuss black politics and nothing came out of it besides free publicity and a photo op.
Anyone else remember this video where Steve Harvey bragged about playing the best monkey in a movie for the right price?
This isn’t comedy. This is Steve Harvey telling you exactly who he is and what he is about and as black women, we should never allow him to paint one of our sisters as an angry black woman so his tired show can gain ratings.